We all know that handshakes are important when meeting new people, networking, on a job interview, etc.; it’s a key part to your introduction to a person. It’s a good indication of the confidence in a person and all things related. I’m not here to talk about the importance of a handshake or it’s germ-spreading ways, rather the awkwardness that may ensue with poor handshake coordination between two people. There will be a series of these posts – this is the first.
Yesterday at work I shook hands with a very important person in the company that I work for. Considering his highly held position, he has great respect for those far lower than him, and treats everyone as a friend. He actually played paintball with me and my friends last year for my birthday. We have a good work relationship and despite the casualness of it, I know to treat him with the respect he deserves. Make a short story shorter, I make sure to give a strong, firm handshake along with eye contact upon meeting with him. Granted, I shake hands firmly with everyone I meet (I have a major disliking for weak hand shakers).
Anyways, I realize now that I’m making this far longer than it needs to be. We shook hands, and after about half a second, he seemed to realize that I hold pretty firmly. This is when he decided to make is grip stronger as well. However, while he made this decision, I had already decided that the hand shake was about over, so I loosened up. I felt this was kind of weird, and it has happened in the past.
My advice: Always have a strong hand shake. Don’t be quick to end the handshake, let it be a mutual end. Try to remember the strength of grips in people you meet with frequently, so no adjustment is needed mid handshake.